How to set your big scary goal in motion
When it comes to setting goals, you’ve heard it before: “If your goals don’t scare you, they’re probably not big enough!”
Up until this past week, I’ve never truly understood that. Yes, I’ve made the big jump to launch a speaking career, and I’ve had to push myself outside of my comfort zone in order to do so, but at the end of the day, it’s not really that scary.
Goal setting is important, and you’ve probably been through the motions many times before. Not only do goals provide you with direction and motivation, but they are your stated intentions to succeed. If you don’t have goals, and you aren’t clear of your own intentions, then this is why you might find yourself drifting aimlessly from time to time. When you do this, you’re settling for average.
It’s one thing to set goals that you aspire to achieve, but what about those goals that even you might feel are bordering on being impossible to achieve?
You know what I am talking about: Those big, almost dream-like aspirations that nobody else in your life would ever give you a hope of achieving. What if you decided to go for a goal so big and so scary that it could quite literally change your life if you achieved it? What if you truly believed that anything was possible?
Imagine pushing yourself to another level where you got to prove to yourself once and for all that nothing is impossible. Nothing! What impossible goal would you set for yourself if you truly believed that you could achieve anything that you set your mind to?
Here are my 5 steps to set all of this in motion
#1 Schedule quiet time into your day: Most people fail to set the simplest of goals because they actually don’t know what it is that they want. You run from month to month being transactional and don’t take the time to think about where you want to go in your life. You cannot hope to set an impossible, meaningful goal for yourself if you don’t know what you want for your own life. This is where spending quiet time alone with your thoughts is important. The way you choose to do this is entirely up to you as you will have your own way of finding that inspiration. For some people it’s music, for others it’s reading, meditation, prayer, or even long walks on the beach. Go to that place that works for you and watch what happens.
#2 Tell somebody about your massive goal: There are two reasons why I am suggesting that you tell somebody about your big, scary goal. But before you do, I don’t want you to go around telling everybody! Depending on the goal, you probably don’t want the whole world knowing about your big idea, and there may be confidential aspects that you won’t want everybody to be aware of. Be selective in who you reveal your goals to, and for the following reasons:
Test the insanity factor: If you tell your goal to somebody close to you and they look at you as if you are crazy, they giggle to themselves in a sarcastic manner, or are dismissive in any kind of way, don’t be upset. Remember that you want to be aiming for a goal that other people might think is impossible. The goal needs to scare you as much as it baffles them. If they are instantly accepting of your goal, maybe it’s not scary enough.
Send your intentions to the universe: I was once told this by a friend, and being all logically minded, I was a little reluctant to believe this at first. But since that day, I have proven this so many times over, and I do truly believe that if you want anything in life, you first have to tell somebody about it, and send your intentions out into the universe. Once you do that you are intentionally setting things in motion that even you will be unaware of. Before you know it, new people are entering your life, and new opportunities are presenting themselves to you and you won’t know why. Trust me, it works.
#3 Put your thoughts into writing: Like any goal, your big scary goal is going to need a plan. If it stays in your head, it will die in your head. Part of setting the goal in motion is to identify an outline or plan as well as the most important activities that you will need to implement over the next 30 days to set the plan in action. Use the technique of mind dumping to drill down each objective to specific achievable action points. Mind dumping again requires alone time, and is the practice of taking a top-level idea, and going deeper and deeper into the idea, and in doing so, you will start to drill deeper into the finer details of your plan. This is a specific and very intentional part of the process, and once you start, you will be amazed at how deep you can take an idea.
#4 Align yourself with those who can assist: Don’t be too proud to align yourself with the right people to help you achieve your big scary goal. Nobody said you have to be the chief architect and the sole builder of your big goal. Strategic partnerships might be important if you lack the specific skills required, or you might feel that in order to stretch yourself outside of your established boundaries, you may need an experienced mentor or coach to assist you with avoiding unnecessary bumps in the road. If you build a great support team around you with the right people, you are one step closer to achieving the impossible.
#5 Ensure all your actions support your goals: In order to achieve the impossible, you have to be all in. This is why in step 1 I said that you need to ensure that your impossible goal is aligned with who you are and what you want to achieve in your life. This is so important, because every single action you take from this step forward will need to be taken with the specific intention of achieving your big scary goal. If you want something badly enough, and if you truly believe that you can achieve your goal, then you will, so long as you commit, and throw everything you have into the ring. There are no half-measures when it comes to achieving the impossible. You might lose friends along the way, and you might even alienate people close to you, but those who believe in you, and who want to see you become the best possible version of yourself, will be there to support you all the way. Stick to your plan, and never ever give up.
All of the above is real. I would never post a blog that is simply theoretical, or something that I might have read in a book, and have now just regurgitated. Most of my posts are from experience, and often from teachings passed to me by life experiences, or by people who have come into my life to teach me a lesson.
I have set two ridiculously impossible goals in the past four weeks and this is the exact process that I have taken to set these goals in motion. A year ago I wouldn’t have dared to dream this big, but once you start to think bigger and believe in your true capabilities as a human being, you begin to realise that there are very few things in life that are truly impossible. Within reason, of course.
I can’t share with you my two big scary goals at this point, but I have shared them with the right people, and believe me when I say this: Not everyone shared my confidence! But both these goals have been set in motion by following the steps above, and when they are achieved, I will be sure to let you know!
This article has been republished with the kind permission of the author
Who is Grant Gavin?
With business interests in property, both real estate and investment, business coaching and public speaking, Grant has built his various businesses on the back of an incredibly successful tenure as the owner of the largest real estate company in the North Durban suburbs.
After working in London in finance for the Walt Disney Company for five years, Grant spent two years as regional manager of RE/MAX of Southern Africa in Cape Town. In 2006 Grant returned to Durban and bought a controlling share of RE/MAX Panache.
Grant is a sought-after public speaker on the topics of entrepreneurship, sales, personal development and leadership, and uses his own real-life, and staged, experiences to connect with his audience, and get them thinking about their own success.
Grant attributes a lot of his success to the many mentors and coaches who have influenced his business style and leadership characteristics over the years, and believes that in order to be successful, one always needs the full support of a loving family, which he has in abundance.